How to get the most out of your Mediumship Reading
By Amanda Rae
Hello my friend!
I want to take a few moments and answer some common questions I receive and explain how my Mediumship readings work and also share some tips about what you can expect before, during and after your session.
I will start off by explaining a little bit about how I communicate with Spirit. I am Clairvoyant which simply means “Clear-Seeing”. The seeing actually takes place in my mind, also known as “minds eye”. These images appear to me on what looks like a movie screen. I see images, symbols and sometimes quick movie clips. The images and symbols are shown to me as if they were on flash cards. I relay what I am seeing to you so that you can help me make sense of what messages are coming across.
I am Clairaudient which means Clear-Hearing. I can hear spirit speaking to me, it comes in similar to my own thoughts. I hear names, words and sounds. Names can be tricky, but I will explain that a little later.
I am Clairsentient, which means I can sense or feel emotions, pains or injuries they had while in their physical body. Some do this to clarify who they are to their loved one, or for validation. I can also sense their personalities, as they may come through very happy and bubbly, very stern, quiet and reserved, or perhaps they were bossy, they will let me know that too!
Every spirit communicates with me differently, just as we are unique, so are they. Some will choose visual images and symbolism, while others will to speak to me in my thoughts. Some use a mix of whatever they can to get the message across in the clearest way. Some spirits are good at communicating while others are just learning, and it is new to them. I do my best to work with them, no matter their level of communication, because it is important to me that you hear whatever their message may be for you.
I want to hear from a specific spirit, will they come through?
I will answer this with a Yes. Most of the time the person that you want to come through, will. It is, however, important to understand that the spirit world decides who will come through, not you and not me. Occasionally, a spirit may not be able to come through for “spiritual reasons” which very, depending on the spirit, or for whom I am reading for. For example, if the person in spirit died suddenly, very tragically or very recently, they may not come through until the end of the reading, or they may not be able to come through at all just yet. They may also wait for you to hear from other loved ones first. This helps you get used to the process, and feel more at ease, then they step forward closer to the end. Just know that when your friends and family step forward to say hi, relay information, offer comfort, support and closure, the last thing they want is to scare you or upset you. If they sense that you are very fearful or uncomfortable with the process, they will often pull back their energy and stop communicating. They will always want what’s best for you, no matter what. To you that might make you feel like they did not want to talk to you, but that is farthest from the truth. They sensed your discomfort, and chose to step back. They come from a place of pure love.
Can you be sure of who will come though?
In short, my answer to that is no. I don’t always know who is going to come through. Honestly, it is like picking up a telephone to ring someone without knowing who will pick up on the other side. It could be an old co-worker, the sweet little lady who lived down the street from you when you were a kid, an old friend from school, or your great aunt Betty that you never met. It could be someone you haven’t talked to or even thought about in years! People will say “Oh my gosh, why would they come through?” My answer to that is”because they can!” You aren’t the only one who is excited to connect, they are excited to connect to you again, too!! This is a special and magical opportunity for both sides, please don’t forget that. It warms my heart just thinking about all of our friends and family in spirit, racing to the phone so that they get a chance to say hello!
Will they answer all of my questions?
Each spirit that comes through does it in their own unique way. They may give answers to some of your questions, but they may not! Sometimes they give you answers that are not what you expected, or that make you think. Your life is yours to live. It is yours to experience and learn. One thing I have learned is that they will not interfere with your personal growth, or your experience here by telling you what you “should” do or giving you “all the answers” to life. Trust me, in the beginning, I tried with my own loved ones in spirit! They will offer you advice, guidance, or give you a heads up to alert you of things that may happen soon or in the future. They do this because time is fluid, therefore anything could change. I will talk about that more in a bit, too.
Do you understand everything that spirit says?
No, not always. Sometimes they ask me to deliver information or messages that I do not personally understand. This information may be related to their personal experience here on earth, for example their medical condition or work in life. It may be out of my personal knowledge or understanding, but with that said, I will do my best to describe the nature of what is being presented to me by your loved one. I won’t need you to give me information, but I may need you to validate what I am describing or possibly help me to understand what I am receiving. My job is to deliver the messages from your loved ones as clearly and accurately as I can to you. I may not always understand what the message means (and that’s ok) but you probably will. I will say, if we can not make sense of what is coming through at all, stick it in your back pocket, it might become clear to you in the future!
Is the perception of time the same for those in spirit, as it is here on earth for us?
Nope! Not at all. What seems like forever here, can be just minutes in the spirit world. Spirits will come through to say hello that you have not seen or heard from, maybe even thought of in decades. Like I briefly mentioned earlier, they could be people you grew up with, old friends from school or family that you never had a chance to meet. Just because you never met them, doesn’t mean they don’t know who you are! Hang onto that information, even if you think I am crazy, ha ha! Just stick it in your back pocket, sooner or later, chances are, you’ll find out who they were! Then send me an email and let me know! I am so excited to receive messages from clients validating something that came through in a reading. Especially if it was something we could’t figure out! I think I’m just as excited to know as you are, to be honest! I love the way Spirit works, I learn something new all the time! Lots of information comes through during a reading and it can be overwhelming to try and make sense of it all. Just try to relax, and be in that moment. It may take some time before it all settles in and you make sense of everything that has come through.
Are you actually hearing voices when spirit speaks?
When I “hear”, I am not hearing them with my ears as I would hear you. What I am hearing sounds similar to my own inner voice. I am “hearing” them in thought. Through lots of practice, I learned how to tell the difference. I will hear names of people, places, objects, towns, colors, or whatever word is necessary to help me understand what they are trying to say. However sometimes it is a little more challenging to understand. Perhaps they had an accent, or physically had a harder time with talking. Or even a name in another language may make it more difficult. I may not understand or hear the word exactly, especially if the name is not familiar to me. For example, the first letter could be off. But it will sound very much like what I am saying. I may not be sure if I am hearing “Mickey” or “Nicky”, “Mary Lou” or “Mary Louise.” Or have you help me. I will say ” I am hearing Jerry, Gerri.. I am getting a J.. Ja.. sound. Or maybe its a different version of a name like: Michael, Mike, Mikey or Miguel (if Spanish). Think of it like this- If I was having a conversation with you, but there was a wall between us, you may or may not hear me exactly correct. This is how it can be when trying to hear from the spirit world. Sometimes it is not as clear and exact as conversation is in the physical world. Again, it depends on the level of communication that particular spirit has.
If someone is wanting to step forward that you had a strained or negative relationship with, please keep in mind that many times they show up to apologize, smooth things over or ask for forgiveness. By no means do you have to accept their message, but it could be an opportunity for healing, for both you and for them.
After a spirit leaves their physical body, they have the opportunity to take a look at their life and the choices they made along with the relationships they had. During this time, they also learn how their actions and choices effected others, positively and negatively. This process enables them to see the bigger picture, the impact they had on others, and often is the reason they want to make amends.
We will all experience this some day. This is process is called the “Life Review.”
Can evil spirits come through?
No. Not on my watch. I make sure that the only spirits that come through during my sessions, are coming through only from a place of love and are here to support your highest good and personal growth. Period.
To me, communication with the spirit realm has one purpose and one purpose only, healing. Healing for my client and healing for their loved one who has crossed.
Many people have a fear of the spirit realm, or actually the metaphysical world all together. Especially if they come from a very strict religious background. I understand and respect this concern because I actually grew up with those beliefs being taught to me. I was taught to fear what was given to me, by the Divine in the first place. It took me years to unwind that ball of confusion. I have written about that in other blog posts, and I am sure, there will be more in the future. It is a topic that I feel so strongly about, that if I allow myself to start talking about that now, I will get so far off topic! So I will cut myself off now and say this. It is a fear that comes from a big misunderstanding of the spirit realm. I have very specific things that I do before doing this work, to make sure that both you and I are in the light of god and protected. It is all done in love.
Can you tell me what my future looks like?
There is also much misunderstanding about this topic. First of all, let me just start off by saying this-
NO Psychic, including myself, can foresee your future 100% set in stone or with 100% accuracy. PERIOD. End of story.
And if they say that they can, they are not telling you the truth. Matter of fact, get up and leave, you do not want to hear what they have to say. Save yourself some disappointment and money. You’re welcome!
What we can and do see are the probabilities, possibilities and pathways into your future. Possible opportunities and/or obstacles based on where you are at that particular moment of your life, during the exact time of the reading. We can see are the possible choices available to you. Me personally, I can tell you how those options “feel” to me at that very moment in time. I may see pathways that stand out very strongly to me and are most likely to bring you to what is the best option for the results you are after. However, please, please please, keep in mind- we all have free will, as do the other players in our lives. That can change everything in an instant. There is always an unpredictable element, a “Wild Card” that can effect the result in the end. Keep in mind, you are writing your future -every moment- along with your thoughts and actions. This is what I mean when I say “Time is fluid.” So keep that in mind as you contemplate the questions for your session.
-Your life is the result of a series of choices presented to you, and the decisions that you make based on those choices.
-My work is to provide insight into those choices that arise through the opportunities and obstacles presented to you…but the choice must be and always is yours to make!
I can not control the spirit world and neither can you. I am sorry, but it is just not possible. I understand that when you contact a Medium, it is to connect with a specific spirit. Please know this- as much as I would like to bring them forward for you, someone else in spirit, to whom you’re connected to, may have a message that is more important for you to hear at that time. It can be hard to understand, and it seems so unfair, but I have seen it happen. It is very important to be “open” to whomever and whatever information comes through. When a person tries to control or direct the session, spirits, or the information that is coming through, it will stop the energy flow and make the reading very difficult. Chances are, it will affect the quality of your reading and your experience. My job is to trust that no matter who steps forward to deliver any message, it is what’s most important for my client to hear at this time in their life. A message that seems unimportant at the time of the reading will often have major significance in the future – Please keep an open mind and hold on to it! -Dare I say, put it in your back pocket?!
Putting it in your back pocket
Are you sick of me saying that yet? Ha! It is very common for information to come through that may not makes sense at the time. Please DO NOT dismiss the information. You might do yourself a huge disservice if you do that. I have received many messages from people who validated information that came through in a reading, after the reading! Sometimes even months after! Spirits bring through information that you have idea about at the time of the reading, but later find out it’s accurate! They will often bring through events or signs to you that are going to be made visible to you in the future. This provides great validation to you that the whole experience was real and more importantly that I was really connecting with your loved one.
Ask your family or friends about the unknown information in the reading. They might know the reason Spirit brought that specific information to light. Perhaps it was a message that needed to go to them!
Skepticism and Skeptics and Scammers
I honestly believe it’s perfectly normal to be a little skeptical about mediumship, the medium and the information they bring through. All professional fields have good and bad individuals who come to work every day. It is the same with those who proclaim to be a Medium. There are many Mediums that have a natural ability, who do their job professionally, with love and compassion. Of course there are some frauds. However, there are a few who have the ability but practice without exsercizing good ethics, that are lacking integrity or even compassion. No two Mediums are the same, so please don’t assume that. It is important to do your research to find a legitimate and reputable Medium. A Medium can have great psychic abilities, but that does not necessarily mean that they are very spiritually aware or operating from a place of love and integrity. This is where the bad reputations and skepticism comes from. That fraud your grandmother went to, the one who told her there was a curse on your family- that could only be removed if she paid another couple hundred bucks… yeah, those are the ones to watch out for. (Insert eye roll here)
With that being said, once you feel that you have found a reputable Medium, it is important to come to the reading with an open mind and open heart! If a person has already made up their mind before the session that it’s not real, it can be very difficult to change that belief. This is also true if the person holds some fear based beliefs, religious or not. Even if I bring through the most specific, no-doubt-in-their-mind, detailed information from loved ones who have crossed, the closed off, or fearful person will try to find any reason to discredit the experience. They do that to support their already held belief, that this cannot possibly be real. I have seen this to happen with people who have fear, a strong need to be in control, or feel that this somehow threatens what they have already decided and strongly hold to be the “truth.” Even misunderstandings about death, dying and the spirit realm can force them to deny any evidence that comes through. If this is you, I would suggest trying to work these thoughts out in your mind, or a journal. It is best to schedule a session when you have an open mind and an open heart that is ready to recieve what comes through during your reading.
Have faith and believe
My work with The Spirit World and within God’s world, teaches me that every day here is a gift. We are here to embrase, be embraced, to love, be loved, to teach, to learn and sometimes just endure this journey! I never take a moment or a day for granted. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us. I had to learn how to be comfortable with the fact that I do not, and will not know or understand everything, and also, to be OK with that. And so do you, my friend. Take a deep breath, and let it out. It is ok. We are ok. Your life is a choice. Every moment you are creating your future -by your beliefs, choices and thoughts. Choose to be happy! Choose to embrace and seek out the joy in life! And choose to stay in the light, not tuning into all of the darkness and negativity here. I don’t mean to go live in a bubble, just acknowledge it, then release it. There is as much good on this earth as there is bad, everything is in balance.
Like the saying goes, “what you focus on, you become”- although I can’t remember who said that at the moment..
We are here to overcome, grow and most importantly, learn! “Bad” things, events or obstacles are actually opportunities to help us grow, they are not punishments. They are lessons, and we are here to learn. Fear can be a healthy early warning system if it keeps us out of a harmful situation, but is important to not let your life be ruled or controlled by fear.
Can I tell you a secret? Well, it’s not really a secret, but you don’t really need me to talk to your loved ones, they see you and they hear you! They can visit with you whenever they choose. If you hear or see them, do not be alarmed, they are just stopping by to say hello! If you want to connect to them, pay attention to your dreams. It is easy for them to visit you there. All that is required is that you let go of your fear, pay attention and most importantly… believe!